Dealing with Election (or any kind of) Stress

DEALING WITH ELECTION (OR ANY KIND OF) STRESS Every one of us is confronted with events in our lives that are challenges to accept/overcome/resolve.  We might say they cause us stress.  The reason I say it that way is that we have options concerning how we view/perceive the events in our lives.  Briefly, we have […]

How Best to Treat Addictions

Why You Should Seriously Consider Our Intensive Outpatient Program to Effectively Deal with Addiction Issues Alcohol/substance abuse or other behavioral addictions/problems are serious concerns. They consist of habitual, self-destructive behaviors that have usually come into being over many years. They are resistant to change and are not quickly remedied. In the beginning, they usually provided […]

Resentment and Forgiveness

Hopefully, you’ve all heard about the wisdom and value of forgiveness as healing for yourself; that you don’t do it primarily for the other person.  What that means, in case you haven’t heard, is that, when you forgive someone for a wrong they committed, there is an emotional benefit for you in the bargain.  What […]

Paradoxes in Life and Counseling

Life is full of paradoxes. What I mean by that is that things that are contradictory often can lead to freedom when they are acknowledged and accepted. For example, the first step of the 12 steps of AA asks person to acknowledge their powerlessness over alcohol and drugs in order that they may be able […]

What is Validation/Empathy and How Can it Benefit You?

One of the most important concepts that ALL clients benefit from has to do with the idea of offering validation to others. Now, let’s be clear, validation IS some things and IS NOT some things. It IS listening and allowing someone to have the feelings they ALREADY have and letting them know you HEAR them […]

Perception of Events Can Alter Your Attitude

One of the most important ideas I have realized over the past years as a counselor and that I find myself relating to almost all my clients is about our perceptions of events.  When things happen, we must realize that we CHOOSE what they mean to us.  This then leads to our feelings about those […]

Bad Decisions and How They Sabotage Your Progress

A client told me yesterday that he noticed a tendency to make bad decisions when things were going the best for him.  “I seem to do something to screw things up when it’s going so well.”  That made me think about the generalized pattern for a lot of people of sabotaging their progress.  Whether it’s […]

Our New Blog

I will be making periodic posts to this blog that I hope will be informative and casual in nature.  I want to give you a flavor for my experiences with some of my clients, tips and insights that I think may be of benefit for you, or any other miscellaneous observations or information. If you […]